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Homicide and Sex
Fr Dennis Smith, February 16th, 2014
‘I have set before you life and death… choose
life.’
The gauntlet is laid down, the challenge made! But what’s involved
in choosing life? For the Israelites it was deceptively simple: obey
the commandments, the laws of God. Today many would say that the law
of the Old Testament, including the Ten Commandments, are dated,
even irrelevant. Yet Jesus taught that not only are they vita moral
guides but there is fresh and deeper truth to be found in them.
In our Gospel reading from the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus
focuses particularly on the sixth and seventh commandments. They are
about murder and adultery, homicide and sex, topics that still grab
headlines! In both cases the commandments arise from the conviction
that everyone has a right to life, that fullness of life can be
found through relationships, and that good relationships are the
foundation stones of a just and worthwhile life. Murder and adultery
negate these possibilities. The challenge that Jesus outs down is to
confront the attitudes and feelings that lie behind the deeds, thus
giving us a hugely high standard – some might say, impossibly high –
to live up to.
This is how he puts it for the Sixth Commandment: ‘You have heard
that it was said “You shall not murder”, but I say to you if you are
angry with a brother ir sister, you will be liable to judgement.’
There’s an important place for righteous anger – anger which rails
against injustice or unkindness – but that isn’t what Jesus was
talking about.
As children we were told that ‘sticks and stones may break your
bones but words can never hurt you.’ But as adults we know that
words can hurt profoundly. Angry words can be killers; they can
destroy relationships and blight community life. People sometimes
complain about Politically Correct language, but without it there
can be a slippery slope that moves from banter to abuse, from abuse
to deep-rooted prejudice, from prejudice to murderous intent.
The prejudiced language of the Nazis, aimed at Jews, led directly to
the holocaust. White supremacist language led to slavery and, more
recently, to apartheid. But verbal anger can kill much nearer to
home than that, if language is unkind, bullying, derisive and
abusive; especially when those who use it are the ones who might be
expected to love and cherish the very children or adults they abuse.
Anger can destroy confidence, breed resentment and trigger
retaliation. Like a stone thrown into a pond, the ripple effects can
blight relationships and poison communities. Jesus’ warning
prohibition reflects the psalmist: ‘Set a watch, O Lord before my
mouth; keep the door of my lips.’ And: ‘Let the words of my mouth
and the meditation of my heart be acceptable to you O Lord, my rock
and my redeemer.’ That’s a prayer that preachers often use before a
sermon begins, but it’s a good prayer for any Christian to use at
times of tension, for it reminds us that our words and intentions
must be acceptable to God, who sets the highest standards of all,
and it can help us to strain out of our speech thoughtless remarks,
wounding words, ugly threats and false accusations.
If and when anger has disrupted relationships then, says Jesus,
don’t delay to do something about it; even if you’re in church, go
immediately and put things right. If at all possible, draw the sting
and find a way through to reconciliation.
‘You have heard that it was said, “You shall not commit adultery”.’
The Seventh Commandment is about another action that’s wrong
because, like the Sixth, it destroys lives, relationships and
community life. This isn’t an anti=sex regulation. As the love poems
in the Song of Songs remind us, the biblical attitude to sex is
overwhelmingly positive. We can rejoice in human sexuality, seeing
it as a good and fulfilling gift of God, within loving
relationships. But the concerns that led to the original commandment
haven’t gone away and, once again, Jesus wants us to have a deeper
understanding. ‘I say to you that anyone who looks at a woman with
lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.’
Today we would want to be less gender-specific, for lust afflicts a
great many of us. But therein lies the problem! Jesus wants us to
recognise that outward deeds follow from inward desires. What goes
on in our minds is harmless, isn’t it? Yet that’s the crucial
question. ‘The wish is father to the thought,’ says the proverb, but
we can also say that the thought is father to the deed. And if
that’s the case, then the possible destructive consequences have to
be faced honestly and boldly.
The negative side of modern sexual appetites is that sex is often
seen an appetite to be indulged, an appetite unrelated to real
loving relationships and, when lust replaces love, there’s usually
trouble, whether involving adultery or other sexual deviations. Many
recent scandals, exposed since the Jimmy Savile affair, have shown
the tragic effects of separating lust and sexual acts from real love
and respect for other people, resulting in profound hurt and damage
to children and adults and the wider community life.
The world around us is full of images that can arouse sexual
temptation: on TV, in novels, at the cinema and theatre and online.
Pornography is widely available, There’s always a debate to be had
about proper boundaries, availability and protection for the
vulnerable. But as Christians living in a plural society, rather
than retreating into calls for blanket censorship, we need to think
clearly about the radical solution proposed by Jesus.
‘If your right eye causes you to sin, tear it out.’ This is a
dramatic figure of speech that’s not to be taken literally. As John
Stott has put it, this is ‘not mutilation but mortification’. Jesus
is saying to each of his followers, if you face sexual temptations
that could hurt another person, harm a relationship or cause offence
to the community, then behave as if your eye has been removed. ’I
made a covenant with my eyes,’ said Job, ‘not to look lustfully at a
girl.’ For many, looking at pornography on the internet isn’t the
best way of avoiding the possibility of harming another person!
Limit our seeing to what can be kept under control – easier said
than done, we might say. Willpower, however strong, may not be
enough. We really need the strongest resource of all, the grace of
God, which we can find by concentrating instead on good, positive
speech, thoughts and actions.
‘Whatever is true, whatever is honourable, whatever is just,
whatever is pure, whatever is pleasing, whatever is commendable...
if there is anything worthy of praise, think on these things... and
the God of peace will be with you.’ St Paul’s advice in Philippians
4 verse 8 is the starting point for escaping the negative power
either of anger, and the destructive power it releases, or of lust
without love and its harmful results.
‘Grace is a treasure of great worth, it is a pearl beyond all price;
grace is the generous love of God made known through Christ’s own
sacrifice.’ If this grace, this self-giving that we have seen in
Christ, is what motivates our attitudes, words and actions in all
relationships, then we have indeed made the decisive choice, and
chosen life.
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